I was rebelling against the health & fitness world..

I was rebelling against the health & fitness world

Last week, I wrote about my 3 action steps for November.  Here they are again:

1.      Stop doing 20 things at the same time

2.      Get back to my meditation practice

3.      Be mindful when I eat

One week into my MINDFUL NOVEMBER and I’m ready to talk a little more about it.

First, I believe that things are going well.  I am keeping my action steps in mind and make sure I do what I said I would. LOL

1.      I’m a mom, so doing 20 things at the same time IS part of the job description BUT I also try to have moments were I don’t let chaos lead the way.  Pick ONE activity or ONE moment to get started.  10 minutes of reading before bed.  A 20 minutes bubble bath.  10 minutes of silently sipping your coffee before the kids wake up.  ETC.  Do you want to start your day or end your day with this mindful practice? YOU get to decide.

2.      My alarm goes off at 6:05AM.  I get out of bed, pee, start the coffee and then go to the basement (that’s where my quiet corner is..for now)  I search YouTube for ‘’yoga music relax’’ and start moving, breathing and focusing ON THE PRESENT MOMENT.  It’s only been 3 days, but I enjoy my yoga/meditation morning moment.  This is definitely something that I want to focus more on and learn more about.  The movement wakes me up and the silence calms me down and centers me for the day ahead. (Follow me on IG for more meditation tips this month!)

3.      The eating action step is tougher than I would have imagined..  Growing up, I had an eating disorder.  It took me years to realize that healthy & strong is better than skinny.  I’ve dealt with my shit.  I’m now able to eat without even remembering that food once triggered me….or am I?

When I started studying to become a personal trainer and thought about offering my services online and locally, I knew that I would have to take pics for marketing purposes.  Of course, if I want to prove that I know what I’m talking about: I need to have 6-pack abs.  I sat down to write down a fitness and meal plan.  I thought of everything: EXCEPT MY INNER REBEL COMING OUT TO PLAY.

I would eat healthy meals when others were around…and sneaking and hiding to eat junk food.  I’d go for drives and stop at any take-out spot to grab a little snack.  I was out of control.  I would tell myself to quit it, that I know better, that I should do better and all that fun stuff, but I COULDN’T STOP!  The more I trash talked myself for being so weak, the more junk I craved!

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I would sneak cookies in the bathroom with me when I would go take a bath.

I would hide treats in my purse so I could eat junk while I was driving.

I would have a rotation so I wouldn’t stop at the same spot every single time..

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The more I would tell myself that I need flat abs and a bubbly butt for a photo shoot…The more junk I would eat.  The less I would go to the basement to workout.  I was rebelling against the health & fitness world

UNTIL I realized that I was self-sabotaging.  I was triggered by my restrictive meal plan.  My body DID NOT want to go through another eating disorder and couldn’t see the difference between anorexia and eating salads every damn day.

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I had to sit down with myself and really dig deeper into this.

I had to sit down and let the rebel in me speak up so I could hear what she had to say.  I’ve been trying to shut her up for way to long..and it hasn’t worked.  It was time for me to listen.

She was scared.

She didn’t care about abs.

She wants food to be yummy…and consistent!

She spoke her mind and I listened.

I thanked her for protecting me.

I told her ‘’I hear you, but now it’s your turn to hear me’’.

 

I don’t do meal plans.

I trust my intuition.

I allow my body to tell me what it needs, but I listen very carefully when it steers me in the junk direction.  I ask questions.

 

And it’s happening again with this month’s action step.  I am trying to fight it.  I am trying to convince my body that it needs to shut up and stop being bloated after I eat gluten. 

This tells me that there’s a bigger issue here than FOOD.

This tells me that sitting down with my Intuitive Eating program is a MUST for me this month.

There's so much more to say, but at the same time I feel like I should end this blog post here.  I need to let this set in for another week.  Live with it.  Deal with it (not in a snappy deal-with-it way, but in a journaling and being gentle way.)

I will be back next week with an update!  In the meantime, join me in the FREE facebook community - WooWoo Mama Wellness Community - as I share my takeaways and ah-ha moments throughout this journey!

Hello November! What should we accomplish together?

Hello November! What should we accomplish together?

November 1st!  2017 is almost over and I feel like it just went by so quickly!  This morning, I sat down in silence to figure out: What do I want November to be for me? What do I want to focus on?

The answer was loud and clear - MINDFULNESS

That's great, I thought, but WHAT IS mindfulness?  So, I hoped on google and started exploring.

Mindfulness is the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are and what we’re doing, and not overly reactive or overwhelmed by what’s going on around us. (https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/)

Great definition!  I get it!  I'm ready to make this part of my life.  But HOW?

After reading a bunch of articles and rolling my eyes a few times (I mean, starting 10,000 things to help me be mindful..ya, that won't work!), I think I found a way to make this part of my every day busy mom life.

Mindfulness

1. Stop doing 20 things at the same time.

Multitasking might seem like the ultimate goal, but if you want to be mindful..it's not!  I want to start doing 1 thing at a time.  If I'm eating, I'm not watching TV!  If I'm going for a walk, I'm going to take the time to enjoy the beauty nature is offering, I will listen to the sounds of nature, etc. And so on.

2. I will get back to my meditation practice.

This one might seem scary, but it's really simple.  My intention is to sit down in silence for at least 5 minutes every morning.  I can do a body scan, take deep breaths or whatever else I feel like I need at the moment.

To make this step easier, have a designated quiet spot in the house.  That way you can go and do..instead of clean a spot for 30 minutes and then say ''Forget it!''

3. I will be mindful when I eat.

I'm noticing lately that...I have a headache every single evening!  Is it the meat? The gluten? The stress? The fatigue? I HAVE NO IDEA and I don't like it!  Time to be mindful of my health.  I have created awesome programs to share with the moms of the world, but this time I want to use it for my own benefit! (check out my Intuitive Eating Program)  It's time to take out the food journal and get to the bottom of this.  It's time to walk the talk and figure shit out!

That's it! I don't want to overwhelm myself and my schedule with an endless list of things to do.  I like the number 3 when it comes to action steps!

 

What about you?  Would starting a mindfulness practice be beneficial?  Is there a part of your life that could use a little more mindfulness?  Let me know what your plan is in the comments below!

Don't forget to check out my Intuitive Eating Program!  Let's do this together!

 

5 tips to get out of an emotional funk and get HAPPY!

I've caught another cold this past week.  It hit me like a ton of bricks..and I am STILL trying to get over it.  

In fact, when I started thinking about it, I realized I've been getting sick a whole lot more since I stopped breastfeeding...THREE years ago!

WOAH, I thought.  Time to figure this out.  Cut back on sugar, load up on probiotics, and take my vitamins more regularly should all help me get better and healthier soon.

It was easy as 1-2-3 to identify the culprit and make a plan of attack in order to get better.  

Why isn't it as easy when it comes to our well-being?

When it comes to physical ailments, we can SPOT it and deal with it.  When it comes to EMOTIONAL stuff...that shit is hiding deep down and doesn't want to be found.

So, what can we do about this?  Check out my 5 tips to get out of an emotional funk and get HAPPY:

  1. Spot the Inner Mean Girl:  It happens often that I get off facebook and find myself feeling ''off'' and don't really know why.  If this happens to you, go back and figure out WHAT put you in this crazy mood.  Your friends are enjoying the beach while you are shoveling your driveway and it got you all jealous?  Your friends are getting married and making babies and you're spending Friday night alone..again and it got you thinking about LIFE and if you're doing it right? Etc...  Find WHAT sparked that yucky feeling..so we can make it go away!
  2. Breathe:  Now that you know WHAT has got you down..  Breathe it away.  You have no use for this thought anymore.  Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.  Done! Gone! Later Sucker!  Take 5 to 10 deep cleansing breaths to help you get back to your center.
  3. Attitude of Gratitude:  Instead of focusing on what you DON'T have..I want you to focus on what you DO have!  Take a moment to think about THREE things you are grateful for RIGHT-THIS-SECOND.  ''Thank you for the heat in my house that is keeping me warm!'', ''Thank you for the delicious coffee!'' and ''Thank you for this box of tissues!''  See, it doesn't have to be super thoughtful and fabulous...it just needs to be straight from the heart!  Go ahead, give it a try!
  4. Wash it Off:  Have you ever tried the Shower Meditation?  Basically, when you shower, you picture all the worries and negativities being washed away!  It feels soooooo good and it's so easy to do!
  5. Get HAPPY: Do something that puts a smile on your face.  Whether that is having a dance party in your living room, a nice bubble bath or reading a good book - DO IT!  You deserve to take at least 15 minutes to FEEL GOOD!!

There you have it! My 5 favourite tips to get out of an emotional funk and get HAPPY!  Which tip is YOUR favourite?  Tell me in the comments below! 

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